Maybe You Can Be A Gay Husband In Heterosexual Relationship



Honestly, being gay and staying in my heterosexual relationship with my wife of 13 years, wasn’t an option for me. It just would have never worked. I knew that as much as I loved her, I could no longer hide my truth and live the life I wanted…being a gay man, in a gay relationship, with another man. That’s my story, not necessarily yours.

Today, mixed orientation marriages, are on the rise. Homosexual husbands, choosing to stay in their heterosexual relationships, and their wives saying, “Make it work!” Doesn’t work for everyone but, hey, who are we to judge. And that’s why Having A Gay Husband Is Actually A Good Thing!

No, You Won’t Suck At Sex After You Come Out!


Coming out. It’s scary, exciting, confusing, and will cause you to doubt yourself over, and over, and over again.  GET OVER IT ALREADY!

You’re going to suck at some aspects in the coming out journey, and not at others. But then, once you get the training wheels on, practice riding your gay bike, you’ll suddenly be ready to ditch the training wheels ride your gay bike in heels while waving a rainbow flag, and balance a couple of hunks in places that bring you great joy, all at one time.

It’s time to get over your fears that you just might suck at gay sex! Here’s how…go ahead, click here and to Will I Be A Bad Gay Lover?

Why Gay Men Suck At Finding Happiness!


Ok. I admit. That title kind of lopped all of us gay men into one seething pot of pity and worthlessness. We don’t all suck, nor do we all suck at finding happiness…at least not on a regular basis. However, being the drama queens that we can be (yes, all of us can be drama queens in our own right), we often find ourselves stuck in the pattern of I can’t find happiness!

You can, you will, if you figure out what’s keeping you from finding happiness.  Here’s some insights to help you out!

Coming Out…Now Where Do I Find My Community?

It’s scary to come out. It’s even scarier to try to find the people you most feel comfortable with on the other side of the closet doors. So how do you do this? How do you find your community and stay true to yourself without feeling all alone once you’ve taken the step to the other side of the closet?

Infidelity…Are Gays The Poster Children For This Epidemic? NOT!

One of the things that happens most often once the label gets assigned that you’re “GAY,” is the assumption that you’re just a big slut. Ain’t true, ain’t true, ain’t true. Not all gay people, especially gay men lounge around with their crotches hard and their legs up in the air. However, this is the assumption that get’s made about gay men, inside and outside of our community.

Me and a few of my friends got together to talk about the Infidelity Factor in the gay community! Would love to hear what you have to say!

Invest & Profit In Yourself First

ProfitFirstA couple of weeks ago I had the opportunity to be in the audience at Creative Live as my friend Mike Michalowicz presented his workshop Manage Your Money For Maximum Profits.I learned a lot from my quick witted, camera crazy friend about being an entrepreneur and taking good care of my business. He introduced us to his new book, Profit First: A Simple System to Transform Any Business from a Cash-Eating Monster to a Money-Making Machine.

What I didn’t expect was to find an interesting twist on Profit First to share with each of you. Go ahead. Don’t be afraid to watch the video. I don’t bite and you just might learn something valuable. In fact, I know you’ll learn something valuable.

I’d Do Something Different If I Only Knew What To Do!

the-step-that-changes-everythingEver said those words to yourself? Knew you wanted to do something  new, experience a different way of being in your life, but just felt stuck in the quick sand of indecision? Hey, I hear ya and it isn’t fun, but it isn’t the end of your world either.

Ironically, my friend Scott Dinsmore, founder of Live Your Legend, just wrote a killer blog post about finding your life’s work entitled A 5-minute Hack For Finding Your Life’s Work!”

What got me so excited about Scott’s blog post were the 3 questions he posed to get you thinking deeper about what you want from your life’s work.

1. What do you think are my biggest passions and why? If you can think of at least two or three, that would be great. Please explain.

2. What do you think are my biggest natural strengths and talents? Please explain.

3. Given the above and what you know about me, what have you always thought I’d be great at doing as a career? Or maybe as a volunteer or hobby? Please explain.

Now I don’t want to give anymore away, because I want you to go check out the entire blog post yourself. But I also want to throw down a challenge. I want you to see how you can morph these questions into other areas of life. For instance, if you’re on the relationship hunt, maybe your questions would look something like this.

1. What do you think are my biggest assets I bring to a mate? If you can think of at least two or three, that would be great. Please explain.

2. What do you think are my biggest natural strengths and talents that would make me a good catch? Please explain.

3. Given the above and what you know about me, what have you always thought I’d could do better in my dating world to attract Mr. or Mrs. Right?

Sure, Scott wrote those questions to help you start the career/passionate work exploration, but with a little bit of a tweak, these questions can be adapted to just about any situation.

Thanks Scott for the great article!

You’re never to old to “Come Out!”


There’s no magical age of self-discovery. After all, did your parents, and their parents, and their parents have a handbook that says, “Johnny’s going to discover his penis and the pleasure of an orgasm when he’s 13 years, 232 days, 14 hours, and 15 seconds old?” I think not. Coming of age and into ourselves can’t be found in any off the shelf handbook about growing up.

Sure there are plenty of tips and tricks for leaving the toddler years, elementary school days, and adolescent, hormone raging “God I’m so secure as a teen,” behind. Truth is, they are just tips and observations. How we go through life, facing the twists and turns, is all individual.

Coming out is no different. Whether you’re 10, 12, 35, 39, 43, 55, 60, 72, coming out happens at exactly at the same time for everyone of us…when we’re ready. So what is and isn’t there to fear about coming out later in life? Click here to find out and then watch this Huffpost Live Segment to get some additional insights!

Turning 51! It’s all relative!


Yesterday I became a member of the 50+ crowd. My elementary, tween, teen, 20’s, 30 something’s, and 40’s are fading into the shadows of days gone by. No regrets, just fond memories.

Now, if you’d asked me a year ago how I felt about turning 50, I would have growled, “Bring that up again and I’ll take all 50 of those lit birthday candles and shove them up every available orifice you have!” Yeah, 50 wasn’t a pretty milestone for me!

In all honesty and transparency, I was a little nervous about how I would feel turning 50+ given last year’s experience. Then something shifted. You can capture the whole story over on YourTango – Click Here!

Stop Lying To Yourself About Lack Of Success.


You want it. Success, however you define it. Then, those crazy making voices show up and tell you…

  • You’re stupid
  • You’re not talented
  • You’re unable to play the game
  • You’re living a pipe dream
  • You’re going to lose good friends if you become successful

Really? How close are we here? No matter how much you DESIRE success, you’ve got to get out of your own way, and give yourself permission to go be as damn successful as you want.

It can become a really screwed up mess if we don’t stay true to who we are and our inner desires. No shame is required. No guilt to lay all over ourselves. No reason to not believe.

Success is simply…

How you define it…

What it does for you…

Who it makes you become…

Why it makes you feel good…

Where it will take you…

When you will allow yourself to go for it…

Are you ready? Ready to go beyond a shadow of a doubt and step into your success with no apologies. If so, then go for it, and go for it hard!