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The Book…

Part memoir, part self-help book, Frankly My Dear, I’m Gay takes readers on a light-hearted, poignant, humorous, and multi-faceted journey out of the closet, with nationally known author, blogger, podcaster, speaker, and Coming Out Coach, Rick Clemons.

Embracing the trips, falls, and triumphs of learning to walk in a new set of heels, Clemons brings a fresh perspective on how to be uniquely you as a flag-waving, or quietly standing on the sidelines, member of the LGBT Community. Calling upon his own, and client’s experiences, Clemons doles out amusing yet sincere insights and advice for navigating a mutually respectful divorce, raising children as a gay parent, and tips for learning how to date, mate, and be in a healthy same-sex relationship.

The Reviews…

“This book breathes new life into every gay mans journey to self acceptance, love and the difficult, yet liberating, process of “Coming Out.” Rick does an excellent job of mixing his personal experiences with humor to tell an honest and candid story that anyone coming out can appreciate. This book is a must read for anyone who is questioning their sexuality or for friends of anyone who has recently come out.”

David Cruz, III Founder of and
Matchmaker on Bravo TV’s The Millionaire Matchmaker”

It takes courage to practice radical transparency, especially when sharing the awkward and often painful coming-of-age experiences that can pave the way to coming out. Rick’s authentic, sweet and comedic voice makes it safe to walk with him through the messy parts of his life and inspires you to celebrate when he discovers his path to self-acceptance and love. Easily relatable and full of heart, “Frankly my dear I’m gay” is a fun read for anyone who’s been there and great companion guide for those who are ready Come Out to play.

Jesse Brune-Horan
Spiritual Director/Co-Founder, Inspire Spiritual Community

Frankly My Dear I’m Gay is a heartfelt, and witty look at a controversial topic – coming out late after living in a traditionally heterosexual marriage. This is a rare find in a book where the story of the journey is shared, accompanied by practical tools for navigating the transformation from who you’ve thought you’ve always been to who you’ve always been in your sexual energy. Spoken from the heart with directness, care, love and humor, Clemons provides an arms wide open approach to help those struggling with living their sexual truth.

Joe Kort, PhD, MSW, MA
Author of “Is My Husband Gay, Straight, or Bi?

Frankly My Dear, I’m Gay is irreverent, funny, witty and remarkably real, Clemons is a master at sharing what it is like to find out your normal isn’t so normal. Written with the same power, skill, blunt honesty and humor of David Sedaris, we ride as spectators in the front seat of the pink coming out bus – to see first hand its challenges and turn ons, its difficulties and discoveries. Clemons hilariously trashes the myth that being gay means you are somehow flawed, and in a masterful way, replaces it with wise, practical and profound life success wisdom of embracing who we are and appreciating our differentness. You’ll blush. You’ll laugh. You’ll understand what stepping into your true, gay, different, unique, amazing and awesome self really means. A winner.

Jay Forte Author of The Greatness Zone –
Know Yourself, Find Your Fit, Transform the World

If you are looking for practical guidance wrapped in a truly humanistic approach, Rick Clemons is the guide you are looking for. He presents his insightful advice in way that real people in the real world can apply to their lives. As a therapist that specializes in helping people come out and live their true lives, I highly recommend Rick for his compassionate and honest approach to finding your own truth.

Elliott Kronenfeld, LICSW

For every person who has struggled to come to terms with the true person inside of themselves, this book is a must read. The potential to live the life that your highest power intends for you, requires that you get honest about who you are. Rick gives gay men and women permission to break down their walls, resistance and fears so they can live with passion and truth. Rick does this with humor and insights from walking his own path and helping hundreds of people along their own journey. If you are a individual contemplating your sexuality, this book truly cuts to the chase and offers timeless insights so you can get on with LIVING your life instead of just thinking about living it.

Melanie Gorman
Sr. VP YourTango Experts

With sharp wit and unabashed transparency Rick not only shares his colorful story but also includes a roadmap of self-discovery to assist the reader with their own journey. It is an entertaining and provocative read!

Joel Barrett
Joel Speaks Out

Frankly My Dear I’m Gay is a work of honest exploration into the deep connection between maturing in our sexuality and finding our passion and purpose. Rick focuses on the gay, lesbian, bisexual, and transgender community to which he is now a part and, yet, the book has a message useful for us all: the truth of who we are is not something we’re born with but something we discover, often against the backdrop of what we’re not.

Rick understands, first hand, that the process of discovering our truth is often a long and arduous one fraught with anxiety and loneliness. He shows up in the pages of Frankly My Dear I’m Gay as a bold and vulnerable guide who promises to hold space for our feelings of shame so that, together, we can divest them of their power and live in a space that knows no right and wrong. He, and Lemon-Odd Pop, and by extension the reader, even have some fun along the way. Who wouldn’t want that kind of freedom?

Clementina Esposito
The Clementina Collective