It happens. Sometimes a straight spouse marries gay spouse and vice-versa. Is it intentional? Maybe. Is it hurtful? Can be. Regardless of the reasons this happens – which range from societal pressure, to religious beliefs, to complete confusion on sexual orientation – it’s not your fault, but it is your responsibility. No truer words are spoken than by today’s guest – yes those are her words – when you realize that you are married to a gay spouse. Yet, how do you heal the wounds and build stronger bridges.
Back for a repeat appearance, Aideen T. Finnola and I take our first conversation further, to wrap up Pride month, by asking the question, “How can the LGBTQ spouse community and straight spouse community, build stronger, more respectful bridges when the truth comes out. Dive in, weigh in, and see what you think as we explore the two worlds that truly can live in peace and harmony, which doesn’t always mean you have to like each other, you simply need to respect one another.
Aideen T. Finnola is an unapologetic and empowered survivor of and thriver after physical, emotional, psychological, and religious abuse. For the first two decades of her life, she was raised by abusive parents who were zealous members of a religious cult; for the second two decades of her life, she was unsuspectingly married to a closeted gay man who was emotionally and psychologically abusive. Today, she is a practicing Martha Beck-trained life coach, public speaker, and author. She coaches and speaks all over the world, teaching others how to reclaim their lives by transmuting their pain into empowerment. She specializes in coaching straight spouses, evangelicals, and cult survivors. Her autobiography detailing the insights she has gained on her own healing journey to reclaim her life is called My Exquisite Purple Life, Insights from a Woman Who Never Should Have Made It but Did.
Are you a straight spouse struggling to move on? Join Aideen at her online MOR Camp this July – Click here for details.