Coming Out
Here’s what happened the day I gave myself permission to be myself.
I’ve always been a seeker. Curious. Inquisitive. I’ve also been a pain in the ass. To myself and others. Always, always, always seeking permission to do stuff. It’s a bad habit I got into – seeing permission as a form of validation to move my life forward, to be accepted by people, and to feel…
Read Full PostWhere do we start?
Where do we start? Start to break the cycle of what men think they are supposed to be, versus what men choose to be. Where do we start? Start to break the toxic, misguided perceptions of manhood, and shift the focus towards allowing men to be empathetic, compassionate, and vulnerable. Where do we start? Start…
Read Full Post10 Brutally Honest, Non-Scientific, No Guru Needed, Ways To Get Your Shit Together!
Admit it. Or not. It’s totally up to you. But you don’t have your shit together, at least not all the time. Once you realize that, you either a) pretend it doesn’t exist like the muffin top starting to form around your waist, b) freak out and max out your credit cards on self-help…
Read Full PostDoes Sex Really Mean You Own Me?
For whatever reason, gay men seem to be the torchbearers for wild, free, sex in the world. Yet, what if SEX didn’t mean you OWNED someone? Not like you bought them, but this weird notion that, once we have sex, you’re mine? I find it interesting that we’ve moved to a space in our growth…
Read Full PostThree Types OF Gay Men You Must Meet…On Gay Apps!
Honestly…us boys love our toys. That includes Growlr, Scruff, Grindr, Daddyhunt, etc. Ok, some of you may not be into the gay app world, but for those of you who are, there’s so much fun to be had chatting, growling, woofing, blocking, and of course pic swapping. How do I know? Even as a married…
Read Full PostYou're a single gay man because…that's what you've chosen!
You may not be the cat’s meow. Or maybe your just being a Puss In Boots. Truth is, if you’re single, you either… Aren’t dating with intentions. Say you want to be dating and you’re kidding yourself. Dating as a sport where you just want to rack up points and wins. Not ready to be…
Read Full PostWhat To Do When Your Dad Comes Out!
Angry, confused, bitter, and not knowing which way is upside down and inside out. Theses are feelings you’re feeling as well as your child and spouse. So let’s figure out what you can do to make it easier on your kids when you finally admit, “Dad’s not exactly the guy you think he is!” More…
Read Full PostCelebrity Crushes…They Do Have A Point!
Ok gay men, this one is for you. It’s a fun little gallery piece I wrote for Your YourTango about celebrity crushes we have that we’d love to bring over to our team. Anyone I missed? Of course there are, and I want to hear who’s your favorite male celebrity you’d like to work your…
Read Full PostThe 5 Worst Fears About Coming Out As LGBT Later In Life
Coming out is tough. Doesn’t matter what age you are, it’s not an easy journey. Now add to it having lived, 30, 40 50, 60+ years. Living a lie. Being someone you’re not. Finally the pain, keeping stories straight, and unhappiness have finally gotten to you. It’s now time to live your truth. There’s a…
Read Full PostIt takes a hero to…speak your mind!
I’m in sunny Fort Lauderdale, Florida. Of course, I’m not here just kicking back, enjoying the sun and the fun. However I will say, the sights, thus far, may cause me to break out of conference mode and play some hooky! Truth is, I’m here to say what’s on my mind. I’ve actually paid a…
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