My Perfect Abs Suck

It’s vacation time. As I write this, I’m in a Southwest capsule jetting at 35,000 feet and 500 miles an hour to Austin, for a brief stop, then onto Ft. Lauderdale. Funny how I’m stopping off in one of the most conservative states in the country (Texas) to land in Ft. Lauderdale, one of the…

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Does Sex Really Mean You Own Me?

For whatever reason, gay men seem to be the torchbearers for wild, free, sex in the world. Yet, what if SEX didn’t mean you OWNED someone? Not like you bought them, but this weird notion that, once we have sex, you’re mine? I find it interesting that we’ve moved to a space in our growth…

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Three Types OF Gay Men You Must Meet…On Gay Apps!

Honestly…us boys love our toys. That includes Growlr, Scruff, Grindr, Daddyhunt, etc. Ok, some of you may not be into the gay app world, but for those of you who are, there’s so much fun to be had chatting, growling, woofing, blocking, and of course pic swapping. How do I know? Even as a married…

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What To Do When Your Dad Comes Out!

Angry, confused, bitter, and not knowing which way is upside down and inside out. Theses are feelings you’re feeling as well as your child and spouse. So let’s figure out what you can do to make it easier on your kids when you finally admit, “Dad’s not exactly the guy you think he is!” More…

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Celebrity Crushes…They Do Have A Point!

Ok gay men, this one is for you. It’s a fun little gallery piece I wrote for Your YourTango about celebrity crushes we have that we’d love to bring over to our team. Anyone I missed? Of course there are, and I want to hear who’s your favorite male celebrity you’d like to work your…

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The 5 Worst Fears About Coming Out As LGBT Later In Life

Coming out is tough. Doesn’t matter what age you are, it’s not an easy journey. Now add to it having lived, 30, 40 50, 60+ years. Living a lie. Being someone you’re not. Finally the pain, keeping stories straight, and unhappiness have finally gotten to you. It’s now time to live your truth. There’s a…

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It takes a hero to…speak your mind!

I’m in sunny Fort Lauderdale, Florida. Of course, I’m not here just kicking back, enjoying the sun and the fun. However I will say, the sights, thus far, may cause me to break out of conference mode and play some hooky! Truth is, I’m here to say what’s on my mind. I’ve actually paid a…

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Is it about religion or something else?

One of the most hotly debated issues when it comes to sexual orientation is sexuality vs. religion. I’ve yet to work with a client on their coming out process that doesn’t touch some realm of the religious turmoil that they endure as they have come to terms with themselves in their sexuality. I’m always amazed…

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