We’ve all struggled with confidence and being who we are. Shame, guilt, comparisons all get in the way of our happiness. Then one day we discover we’ve been sucked into success as for of happiness, rather than letting our own unique freak guide us to living our passionate lives and purpose on this earth. There…
Toxic people don’t take a break at the holidays. In fact the own their toxicity and show up when you least expect it and need it. In fact, that’s part of the triggering and wake up call for us to own our IT, and to show up fully being ourselves. After another out of the…
Life keeps moving along. Her job brings you joy. She travels every chance she gets. She’s consistently doing the inner work to bring herself closer to her soul center. Looking at her from the outside you’d think this gal’s got it all together, and she pretty much does. Ah, but there’s more. Her burning desire…
Vulnerability. Everyone seems to be talking about it these days. Or maybe it’s just the circles I run in. The truth is, vulnerability is a gift. However, many people are scared to death of vulnerability, and for some, rightfully so. What I’ve learned, and what I’m sharing is that vulnerability can be many things, and…
One day you wake up and realize that self-care is not an option. It is a must. All the fun, fun, fun of drinking and partying has turned into another disastrous wake-up call on Monday morning where your child looks at you with disgust. Getting by is no longer acceptable. Drinking through it doesn’t ease…
Boy Erased, starring Lucas Hedges, Nicole Kidman, Russell Crowe, and Joel Edgerton, explores the story of the son of a Baptist preacher is forced to participate in a church-supported gay conversion program after being forcibly outed to his parents. Based on the memori and true story of Garrard Conley, the film takes us on the…
It’s been awhile since we’ve done a “He said, she said” or a “Coach To Coach” segment. But when I was contact by Anne-Marie Zanzal, I knew it was time. Especially given our political climate where it appears that the far right, and maybe even the leaning right are coming after the LGBTQ community. Typically…
I used to love reading Curious George when I was a kid. Then, somehow the stars aligned and I married a guy named George and he always invites me to be curious, rather than jumping to assumptions, or conclusions. Thanks hubby. I’ve also learned in my own life explorations, that curiosity serves me or sucks…
Imagine knowing exactly what someone is thinking. Or, at least having a pretty good idea of what they are thinking, all because their body speaks louder than their words. You could tell if they were really interested in a date. You’d be able to determine if he was serious about promoting you. Possibly you’d discover…
Have you ever found yourself asking for permission? Of course you have. The better question is, have you ever found yourself not giving yourself permission? Yeah! The permission to do something you really want to do. Or, the permission to say what you need to say. And better yet, the permission to make a mistake…
Imagine coming into the world, just as your Father made a major life detour. His detour, one of shame in the world, was unbeknownst to you until the age of 13. By then, you’ve been socialized to believe that everything you now discovered your Father is, cannot be talked about in your conservative, church-going Iowa…
Nothing is perfect. Nothing. Nothing. Nothing. But we all know that, yet we pursue perfection and allow it to drive us batty. It’s such a waste of energy that could be put to better use. Which begs the question, “If perfection doesn’t exist, how could we better use our energy, than pursuing perfection?” Here’s two…
Kindness. At times it seems to be elusive. Especially in our world today. People from all walks of life seem more divisive and at odds with one another. Yet, how different would we all be, myself included, if we practiced more kindness, empathy, and understanding? It could be, and probably would be a completely different…
I know the future, I never encounter anything unexpected, and I am fully in control of what is to come. Yeah right! But don’t we wish that were true? Alas, the unexpected is inevitable. So why do we fight it, cringe when it shows up, and then wail and moan as we deal with it…
Imagine, in the land of imagination – Hollywood – that LGBTQ characters have leading roles that are never based on stereotypes. That the main conflicts of LGBTQ characters face on the big screen aren’t based solely on their sexual orientation. That female characters have roles that go beyond mother, wife, daughter, and/or woman-in-jeopardy. And, that…