I have to be honest. Being honest was one of the hardest things I ever learned to do. Ok, maybe I haven’t mastered the full art of it yet, but for the most part I’ve learned that raw honesty trumps (not to be confused with 45) fake honesty any day. Yet, one of the things…

Isolation, loneliness, not fitting in. All are common feelings on the journey to coming out to be one’s self. In the darkest of moments, you may feel the need to give up or give in, yet the real kick ass triumph comes when you Reverse The Beat and thrive. Calling all of us back into…

I’m 54, he’s 50 something. We’re celebrating 200 Episodes of The Coming Out Lounge. He’s celebrating 35 years in the music business rocking the dance music industry. All that is to say, you’re never too old to rock the world, your way. But it does beg the question, “How do you continue to bring yourself…

So what is the difference between self-love and being an arrogant asshole. A lot! It’s just one small step to the right when you move from self-love to conceit and narcissist. From gas lighting to fake love, we’re exploring how narcissists have a deep effect on our coming out journey’s. In today’s episode we go…

Attention. So hard to grab yet so valuable when you do. For the past six weeks I’ve been traveling and putting a real effort into trying to pay attention to things happening around me. It’s helped me learn stuff about myself as well as about my fellow habitants of the earth. This week I take…

He’s a repeat offender, but actually he’s a repeat guest that is back to talk about the art of using Improv to communicate more clearly in the throes of change. Yes, I said Improv when your deep in the tornadoes of change. Whether you’re coming out, making a career change, going through a relationship break-up,…

Today’s my birthday, and my gift to you is my perspective on how today and everyday can be your birthday too. I’m keeping it short and sweet this week as I’ve got some celebrating here to do in Las Vegas, but I just know you’re going to get something out of this short, to the…

It’s time to declare that you have the right to love without judgment! Yes you do. No matter your desires – gay, lesbian, bi, poly – love is love and it is the summer of love once again. This summer we celebrate the 25th anniversary of the summer of love. A time in the Haight-Ashbury…

As Dan Savage would say, ITMFA – Impeach The Mother Fucker Already! As 45 turns the tables on my transgender brother and sisters this week by declaring them unfit to serve in the military, I felt even more compelled to support Savage and his ITMFA campaign. Serendipitously, I also interviewed a friend of mine, Mike…

You’re out. Or considering coming out. One of the scariest, most confusing aspects of coming out is whether to be out in the work environment. Some say “yes,” others say “no,” and for others it’s a non-issue. Regardless of what way you are leaning, there’s a lot of hurdles to consider for you, your livelihood,…

While attending World Domination Summit over the past weekend, I had the opportunity to confront the fire of shame that fuels my worry. Since I returned, I’ve been caught up in potential shame that has been inflicted upon me by someone else, without any basis as to the reason they are throwing shame my way.…

So often we get told to “Man up,” or “Act like a lady,” or “Quit being such a cry baby.” All words that cut like a knife, and often times scar us for life. And once the scar is there, it never really goes away, even with the best plastic surgery, the memory of how…

This weekend I was faced with FOMO. Fear of missing out, but in reality I was facing FOBO – Fear of Better Option. I’m attending World Domination Summit in Portland and one of the activities is a food around the world experience where you could choose to have a Columbian, Iraqi, or Congoloese dinner to…

From theater dork and film student to non-profit work and dancing her way through Boston, NYC, Europe and Los Angeles, today’s guest finally came out, submitted to her calling to go back to school for nutrition and found a path for delving more deeply into spiritual based practices. Her journey has taken her to a…

I’ve been handed a lot of opportunities in my life. Some good, some not so good. All have given me opportunities to…well you’ll just have to listen and find out. However, as you listen to this riff and rant, I invite you to seek out the OPPORTUNITY to develop your own five questions to help…