At some point in time, someone has told us to get over it, or in more frank terms, “Get over your shit!” I have a different take on this, and I share 10 ways to get over your shit, but it’s really not about getting over your shit, it’s about something else altogether different. But…
Before you go knocking on the closet door, you might want to consider, NETWORKING. Yes, NETWORKING. In other words, finding some like type folks who’ve been down the road your about to embark upon, before you dive headlong into the life you’re meant to be living. As crazy as it sounds, NETWORKING, is a key…
West Los Angeles. Home of the Compton riots and some of the toughest inner city living on the planet. But that didn’t stop me, yet as I drove through the neighborhood my courage waned a little bit with each block as I got closer to the high school I was about to speak at. In…
Let’s be honest. A majority of us in the LGBTQ world have been told, “You’re going to hell for living that lifestyle.” Oh yeah? Well, who are you to judge and cast stones. But yet, maybe they’re right, or very, very wrong. For all the biblically-based, Christian ideology that fly across pulpits every Saturday and…
Audacity – the willingness to take risks. In my book it’s really the willingness to not give a damn what others think and to be yourself. This has showed up in a lot of ways this week – with clients, myself, my kids, and a few friends. Everyone questioning their ability to be who they…
Imagine living in a town that is literally for all intents and purposes a suburb of Chicago. There’s only one twist…it’s in Indiana. A state where individuals can be fired from jobs for being gay. A state where an evangelical Christian was elected governor and now is the nation’s Vice President. A man who as…
For the past few weeks I’ve been listening to Oprah and Deepak Chopra’s latest meditation series, “Hope in uncertain times!” It got me think how we can use hope as our guide to come out of our closets to live a rich beautiful bold life. A life uncloseted. Join me as I share why I find…
One of the hardest things about coming out of any closet in life, is realizing that the closet door only opens when you truly love who you are fully and completely. However, most of us would say, “Yes, but easier said than done!” And, that’s how the spiral begins where we don’t exercise self-care and…
What do you do when you’ve been dealing with an irrational person? You riff and rant about it on your podcast. And that’s exactly what is happening on The Coming Out Lounge podcast today. I’m giving you a glimpse of my personal life and using it as a teaching/mentoring moment to help you learn three…
It’s been said that life imitates art, but sometimes art imitates life. And that’s exactly where we are going today on The Coming Out Lounge, to a place where art takes us into the provocative life of The Victorians. Our guest, Dwight Gabbert, created this film as a bid to celebrate homosexuality and LGBT rights…
Security. Certainty. Having to know. We all desire some form or feeling secure. Whether it’s in ourselves, the future, our relationships, or even in our homes. Security gives a sense of knowing. But what if you can’t get to that sense of security? Today’s rant is all about “To be secure, or not to be…
We all are who we are. No getting around that. Even if we put on makeup, false smiles, and act as if we’re really happy, even when we’re not. But, it’s time to take a deeper look into ourselves and embrace that we do belong, we are enough, and there are plenty of wild flowers…
There’s a lot of hubbub these days about the Transgender community. Everything from where they can go pee to whether they should be vanquished off the face of the other. Too many times they are assumed to be misfits, and weirdos who just love to crossdress and worst of all they are assumed to be…
Her daughter always caught the boy’s eyes. In return, she knew how to flirt, date, and do everything a normal young lady would do growing up. She was active in school, a social butterfly, and pretty much your average kid. College came and then so did a new development and we’re not talking anything hormonal.…
Life happens, someone gives you a wrong look, or the shit hits your fan, and BOOM you react! Or, do you respond? One of the clutches of living a CLOSETED LIFE is living in a reactive state rather than a responsive state. I know! I’m a reactor! I own it, I admit it, I am…