I want you to take a journey with me. A journey where the truth of who you are is as follows. You’ve never been married. You’re an avid motorcyclist who’s traveled from the Pacific Coast all the way to the Great Lakes. You love your cats, attending church, cooking and you even had the thrilling…
Instead of talking about just living our truth, today I want to focus on being more self-reliant, self-loving, self-aware, and mindful. Why? Without these abilities, and exercising those muscles to become more self-reliant, self-loving, self-aware, and mindful, you’ll be fighting a steeper uphill battle to change your beliefs about who you are as a LGBTQ…
Empty. The life you’d envisioned, just became an empty episode of Portlandia…so to speak. You never saw it coming. Up until this point in your life, you were doing what you love. Acting, composing, mastering your craft as a pianist, and then while on the set of a film all your questioning about who you…
Ever feel like you don’t fit the mold? Wonder how you’re going to fit into that box the world’s told you to step into? Yeah…it sucks. Doesn’t matter if you’re not gay enough or too gay. Not man enough or woman enough. You just can’t seem to find your place to say…”Ah, I fit in!”…
Most of us, love a good story. In fact, most of us, love to create stories…you know the ones that sometimes get us in trouble. Stories that cause us to believe we can’t, shouldn’t, and aren’t supposed to be who we are. But what does that do for us living authentically in the world? Well,…
One of the greatest challenges we face as humans is the ability to find balance between being ourselves and being what others expect from us. Factor in the fact that we’re gay and you have a whole other world to contend with. That’s not to say that it’s just us gay people who have to…
The conversation we’re going to have today is going to go all over the place, but the reason I’m going to allow this one to just free-flow and go wherever we want it to is because it’s about being creative and just being in the moment and seeing what happens. Frank Rogala is a lot…
Coming out. Why does it still matter? Why does stating “Frankly My Dear I’m Gay” need to be said? Is it really anyone’s business someone else’s sexual orientation? Do we still need to be having this conversation? How could this conversation finally heal the planet? In this short rant, I take on the three key…
Today we’re going to the roots. To where it all started. Could be to where you were born, or to that place you call home. Doesn’t really matter. What matters is grounding yourself. Learning to ground yourself in who you are regardless of where you live. That can be a rather daunting task, especially when…
In this special episode of The Coming Out Lounge, the script gets switched as I’m interviewed by my friend, Joel Barrett, of Joel Speaks Out. We talk about my new book, Frankly My Dear, I’m Gay., and the importance of why, even later in life it is so important to step out to be your…
So let’s talk about that closet thing in a slightly different way. I’m sure many of you have thought about it but haven’t completely processed how coming out is going to play out at work or in your career. That’s ok. Take your time and address each thing as it comes up. But since we’re…
Today we’re going to do something, well, pretty simple. We’re going to have a simple conversation about Truth Being Told…because truth rocks. It’s been awhile since we’ve had a raw conversation about coming out, being married, and having kids. But that’s where we’re headed today. Joining me is Doyle Smiens. A father, husband, and a…
Hello Closet Busters. It’s time once again to stop your closet dwelling…to step out, step up and step in to living your truth. But what if that truth meant…lots and lots and lots of questions and people not really getting you. We’re not talking them not getting you because you’re gay, we’re talking people…
Polyamory…is it a new sexual revolution? A fad? A revolt against societal norms? A slap in the face of the heteronormative? Or is it simply a way of being in relationship with yourself and others. Depending on whom you speak to, the answer could be yes, no, or all of the above. Yet the real…
Here’s the thing. You may not realize it, but to come out you need to be a leader. You need to take leadership of your life and realize, coming out is simply a form of reinventing the you that you thought you were and taking a stand to stand out as who you’ve always been. In fact,…