Most of us, love a good story. In fact, most of us, love to create stories…you know the ones that sometimes get us in trouble. Stories that cause us to believe we can’t, shouldn’t, and aren’t supposed to be who we are. But what does that do for us living authentically in the world? Well,…
One of the greatest challenges we face as humans is the ability to find balance between being ourselves and being what others expect from us. Factor in the fact that we’re gay and you have a whole other world to contend with. That’s not to say that it’s just us gay people who have to…
The conversation we’re going to have today is going to go all over the place, but the reason I’m going to allow this one to just free-flow and go wherever we want it to is because it’s about being creative and just being in the moment and seeing what happens. Frank Rogala is a lot…
Coming out. Why does it still matter? Why does stating “Frankly My Dear I’m Gay” need to be said? Is it really anyone’s business someone else’s sexual orientation? Do we still need to be having this conversation? How could this conversation finally heal the planet? In this short rant, I take on the three key…
Today we’re going to the roots. To where it all started. Could be to where you were born, or to that place you call home. Doesn’t really matter. What matters is grounding yourself. Learning to ground yourself in who you are regardless of where you live. That can be a rather daunting task, especially when…
In this special episode of The Coming Out Lounge, the script gets switched as I’m interviewed by my friend, Joel Barrett, of Joel Speaks Out. We talk about my new book, Frankly My Dear, I’m Gay., and the importance of why, even later in life it is so important to step out to be your…
So let’s talk about that closet thing in a slightly different way. I’m sure many of you have thought about it but haven’t completely processed how coming out is going to play out at work or in your career. That’s ok. Take your time and address each thing as it comes up. But since we’re…
Today we’re going to do something, well, pretty simple. We’re going to have a simple conversation about Truth Being Told…because truth rocks. It’s been awhile since we’ve had a raw conversation about coming out, being married, and having kids. But that’s where we’re headed today. Joining me is Doyle Smiens. A father, husband, and a…
Hello Closet Busters. It’s time once again to stop your closet dwelling…to step out, step up and step in to living your truth. But what if that truth meant…lots and lots and lots of questions and people not really getting you. We’re not talking them not getting you because you’re gay, we’re talking people…
Polyamory…is it a new sexual revolution? A fad? A revolt against societal norms? A slap in the face of the heteronormative? Or is it simply a way of being in relationship with yourself and others. Depending on whom you speak to, the answer could be yes, no, or all of the above. Yet the real…
Here’s the thing. You may not realize it, but to come out you need to be a leader. You need to take leadership of your life and realize, coming out is simply a form of reinventing the you that you thought you were and taking a stand to stand out as who you’ve always been. In fact,…
I want you to imagine the following scenario. You’re happily married. You really love your spouse. You do beautiful work in advocacy for marriage equality and your husband is chef. Between the two of you, you have three beautiful children that also share time with your husband’s ex-spouse. However, there’s a story hiding in the…
Tall, strapping, soulful, and ready willing and able to help men open their hearts to their deepest purpose. But what happens, when suddenly, a new stirring shows up causing you to wonder what your purpose is as a man? A pebble in the shoe sort of moment where who you thought you were suddenly feels…
Lettuce Entertain You. For those who aren’t in the restaurant industry, those words may not sound familiar, but that name brand alone means showing up to be totally yourself as one of the dominant brands in the industry! So what the heck does that have to do with coming out? Everything. When you show up...
What if you suddenly woke up one day having no fear, no filter, and you didn’t want to be around b.s., negativity, toxic people, or waste anymore time not living in your truth or not following your dreams. Sounds pretty amazing doesn’t it? But what if getting there required that you move half way across…