| THE EXPERIENCE |

You know something has to change.

This is how it happens.

Look, there's no curriculum here, in this private coaching work. No start date. No end date. No homework due on Tuesday.

I'm going to meet you where you are. We're going to figure out where that actually is. And we're going to move from there.

Some men come in at The Wake-Up. Some are already mid-Leap and don't know what to call it. Some have been sitting in The Own for two years and can't figure out why nothing is moving.

Doesn't matter. That's where we start. We go at your pace. Just know I'm going to push you to keep moving.

We meet in the stage that fits. We build from there. And sometimes we back up when life decides to test you again.

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The Six Stages

THE WAKE UP

| The Wake-Up doesn't create the reckoning. It ends the denial of it.

Something's been trying to get your attention. Time to listen.

You already know something is wrong. You've known for a while. This is where we uncover how to stop pretending you don't.

THE INVESTIGATION

| Stop defending your life. Start investigating it.

Not the story you've been telling yourself, or the edited version shared with friends. We look carefully at what you've been avoiding.

Not what's wrong with your life, what's been kept out, and bring it in.

THE LEAP

| Courage isn't a feeling. It's what you do when you're scared anyway.

Every gay man has an invisible box, of unspoken rules - what he's allowed to want, say, do, and be.

We leap outside what doesn't fit anymore. No waiting for fear to go away.

THE DRAW

| Draw the line. Then stand behind it.

We stop circling and decide. Not "I'll try" or "Open to it." Specific, named, uncomfortable decision with a date and an action.

This moment this stops being a thought and becomes a decision.

THE OWN

| Confidence is not something you wait for. You build it by doing this.

Not the confidence that comes from getting everything right. It comes from knowing you didn't flinch when it mattered.

The Own is where no fears, no excuses, no apologies lives in you.

THE RITUAL

| One great decision is a moment. This is a standard.

Everything you've built becomes how you operate. A standard you hold yourself to so that life's reckonings are cleaner, and costs less of your life.

The Ritual isn't the end. It's how you run your life from here on.

Mark T.

At 50, after 20 years of marriage and two kids, I finally stopped negotiating with myself and came out. Then came the real question. Now what?

I hired Rick. For a year and a half he walked me through all of it. Separation. Divorce. Becoming a gay dad post-divorce. Dating again. Sex again. Love again, this time as myself.

He was always available, day or night, whether I needed direct advice or just someone to vent to without judgment.

If you're staring down your own closet, whatever that closet looks like for you, Rick is who you call.

James P.

I left a job I'd had for 26 years and had no
idea what came next.

Rick didn't hand me answers. We dug into what actually mattered to me, what was fulfilling, what the next chapter needed to look like if it was going to fit.

What came out of it wasn't just a new job search. It was permission to actually want something instead of just taking whatever came next.

I know what balance means to me now. I know how to build toward it instead of just hoping for it.

Thanks for the work, Rick. You didn't just help me find a job. You helped me find a path that's actually mine.

Joseph H.

I came to Rick thinking this was about my sexuality. It turned into something much bigger.

Session by session, the work stopped being just about coming out and started touching everything else. My confidence at work. My creative instincts, the ones I'd been sitting on for years. The way I show up in my relationships, with friends, with partners, with myself.

None of that was supposed to be on the table. Somehow it all was, and it all needed to be.

This isn't coaching that stays in its lane. It goes wherever the real work actually is.

This is the work.

If you're not ready for private work, The Reckoning is a group experience for gay men with other gay men.

Guys just like you who are done negotiating and ready to do their first reckoning with the support of other gay men in the room.

Step Into The Reckoning