You're not the only one pretending.
This is where it stops.
You've had the wake-up call.
Maybe more than one.
You know what needs to change. You've known for a while. What you haven't had is a room full of gay men over 40 who are standing in the exact same place, willing to say it out loud, do the work, and hold each other to it.
That's The Reckoning.
Not therapy. Not venting. Not a support group where everyone nods and nothing changes. A confronting, held, time-bound experience where you name the negotiation you've been running and make the decision to end it.
Confronting. Held. No going back.
what the reckoning is
A focused group coaching experience for gay men over 40 who have reached the point where negotiating, pretending, or settling is no longer possible.
Momentum, not processing.
Clarity, not noise.
Action, not endless insight.
The work with Rick is confronting, with a big daddy bear hug. You will be seen. You will be heard. You will be held accountable. And you will not be left out there alone.
no therapy. venting. hand-holding.
How it works
Two 90-minute live Zoom sessions per theme, two weeks apart.
Session one names the negotiation. Session two makes the decision.
Small group. 6 to 10 gay men over 40.
Small enough that nobody disappears. Large enough that you stop thinking you're the only one carrying this.
Each theme runs as a standalone experience.
Enter at the theme that's most alive for you right now. You don't need to start at the beginning. You need to start where it hurts.
THE SIX RECKONING THEMES
Each theme applies The Reckoning Experience's six stages to one specific area of a gay man's life.
Pick the one you've been avoiding the longest.
what you walk away with
One clear decision. Named. Stated out loud. In front of other gay men over 40 who did the same thing. That accountability is not incidental. It's the whole point.
A framework you keep. Not a feeling. A repeatable tool you apply to the next negotiation you're running, in any area of your life.
Homework between sessions. The work doesn't stop when the Zoom ends. What you do in the two weeks between sessions is where the real shift happens.
A next step, if you want to go deeper. Some men do the group work and move on. Others do private coaching. Either way, the line gets crossed.
where the reckoning came from
Thousands of hours coaching gay men over 40. Hundreds of conversations with guests on the podcast.
That's where the six stages came from. Not theory. Not a framework I built in a weekend. The pattern that kept showing up, over and over, every time a man actually stopped negotiating his life and started living it.
That work became the book.
The Reckoning: A Gay Man's Wake Up Call to His Own Bullshit
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The next Reckoning's are forming now.
Six to ten men. One theme. Two sessions. One decision you won't walk back from.
