I pretended for way too long to be someone I wasn't.
Got a college degree that really didn't light me up.
Worked in an industry that was fun, but had no meaning - no sizzle.
Got married to a woman, became a Father (no regrets there), but hid my truth.
It all came crashing down when I said, "I'm gay."
Divorce, two households to pay for, job loss, career change. It sucked.
Then it didn't.
In 1999, when my life was falling apart, if someone had said, "But wait, the good stuff is coming," I would have said "Fuck off!"
Boy was I wrong.
I went from high flying exec, to unemployed, to starting over and finding a career I loved - being a life/business coach, podcaster, writer, and speaker.
I started living by my expectations rather than others, and gained the confidence to love me.
Instead of seeking out hidden sexual experiences and lying about who I was, I found love with a man who embraced me and my kids.
Of course, none of this was easy. I wouldn't bullshit you. That's not my style.
It all took work, pain, risk, and trust. But hey, that's what life is all about.
On the flip side, I also discovered how to let go, have fun, smile, not give a damn, and to focus on what was important to me.
I feel very lucky to do this work - which I consider play - guiding gay and bisexual men to let go, be themselves, and to stop making excuses, kick those fears in the face, and commit to living an unapologetic life.
My motto and challenge to you is to remember "The truth of who you are is far more powerful than the false truth you are pretending to be, so let's work together to show the world WHO YOU ARE!"
Author of SIDE HUSTLE
Rick is the real deal. If I were trapped in the closet, he's the first one I'd call. Wait, is there phone reception in the closet? In any case, it's rare to meet someone so genuine yet also so wise (don't tell him I said that part).
CEO & Founder, Strategic Speaking and Executive Producer, TEDxCambridge
Rick puts his heart and soul into his work -- it comes through in everything he does. If you're looking to make bold moves, he's the perfect guide and mentor.
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Outside of becoming a firm friend, Rick's ability to switch from the strategic to the actionable in a breath is something that is rare to find in this busy world of "online gurus". With an empathetic ear and firm stance, Rick is one of the few people I know who can simultaneously inspire & deliver, doing so with startlingly accurate insight and unrelenting results. A true master of his craft.
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