| THE EXPERIENCE |
You know something has to change.
This is how it happens.
Look, there's no curriculum here, in this private coaching work. No start date. No end date. No homework due on Tuesday.
I'm going to meet you where you are. We're going to figure out where that actually is. And we're going to move from there.
Some men come in at The Wake-Up. Some are already mid-Leap and don't know what to call it. Some have been sitting in The Own for two years and can't figure out why nothing is moving.
Doesn't matter. That's where we start. We go at your pace. Just know I'm going to push you to keep moving.
We meet in the stage that fits. We build from there. And sometimes we back up when life decides to test you again.
The Six Stages
THE INVESTIGATION
| Stop defending your life. Start investigating it.
Not the story you've been telling yourself, or the edited version shared with friends. We uncover what you've been too careful to look at directly.
We're not looking for what's wrong with your life. We're looking for what's been kept out of it and bring it in.
THE LEAP
| Courage isn't a feeling. It's what you do when you're scared anyway.
Every gay man over 40 has an invisible box, of unspoken rules about what he's allowed to want, say, do, and be. We uncover how to step outside it because the man you're becoming can't fit inside it anymore.
The Leap doesn't wait for the fear to go away. It goes anyway.
THE RITUAL
| One great decision is a moment. This is a standard.
This is where everything you've built becomes how you operate. Not a program you went through. A standard you hold yourself to. Every reckoning from here is faster, cleaner, and costs less of your life.
The Ritual isn't the end. It's how you run your life from here on.
Mark T.
At 50, after 20 years of marriage and two kids, I finally stopped negotiating with myself and came out. Then came the real question. Now what?
I hired Rick. For a year and a half he walked me through all of it. Separation. Divorce. Becoming a gay dad post-divorce. Dating again. Sex again. Love again, this time as myself.
He was always available, day or night, whether I needed direct advice or just someone to vent to without judgment.
If you're staring down your own closet, whatever that closet looks like for you, Rick is who you call.
James P.
I left a job I'd had for 26 years and had no
idea what came next.Rick didn't hand me answers. We dug into what actually mattered to me, what was fulfilling, what the next chapter needed to look like if it was going to fit.
What came out of it wasn't just a new job search. It was permission to actually want something instead of just taking whatever came next.
I know what balance means to me now. I know how to build toward it instead of just hoping for it.
Thanks for the work, Rick. You didn't just help me find a job. You helped me find a path that's actually mine.
Joseph H.
I came to Rick thinking this was about my sexuality. It turned into something much bigger.
Session by session, the work stopped being just about coming out and started touching everything else. My confidence at work. My creative instincts, the ones I'd been sitting on for years. The way I show up in my relationships, with friends, with partners, with myself.
None of that was supposed to be on the table. Somehow it all was, and it all needed to be.
This isn't coaching that stays in its lane. It goes wherever the real work actually is.
This is the work.
If you're not ready for private work, The Reckoning is a group experience for gay men with other gay men.
Guys just like you who are done negotiating and ready to do their first reckoning with the support of other gay men in the room.