Stage 1 - Explore Your Sexuality
Am I gay, bisexual, or curious?

You keep thinking "Am I gay or bisexual, or just screwed up?"
You're confused, unsure, and scared!

It's driving you nuts. These thoughts of being weirdly turned on by guys.

It's like your teen hormones are kicking back in.

Nope, it's a “mid-life” crisis. Yup, that's it.

UGH! You can't escape these thoughts about man touch, man sex.

What the hell is wrong with you?

You look at women - nothing.

You look at men - everything.

Guilt, shame, confusion, fear and anxiety haunt you.

You’re thinking...

“I want to experience sex with a man.”


"What if my friends and family find out?"


“I'm going to hell for thinking this way!"

You're feeling...

Turned on and ashamed.


Afraid of disappointing everyone.


Confused and insanely curious.

You find yourself...

Secretly on Grindr, Scruff, watching gay porn.


Lashing out and constantly being in a bad mood.


Hating God for doing this to you.

Got it. Let's stop making you crazy and get you feeling more relaxed and sane!

I create a safe, confidential space for you to get real.

We start to explore - NO PRESSURE, NO RUSH - to define your sexuality.

To talk about your thoughts and desires about other men.

Feel your feelings about being gay or bisexual.

Confront your confusion and express your fears.

We focus on you owning your sexuality, not declaring it to the world - no guilt or shame.

This is about you becoming 100% fully comfortable with you, as a gay or bisexual man.

Stop pretending. Start being. Live your truth!

"Coming Out" Coaching How It Works

I'm a straight-forward, uncomplicated guy, and here's how I see being your coach.

I want you to be with me, because you believe it's going to work for you.

It's an investment in time and money, and worthwhile if you go full in.

This won't work unless you are ready to dive in 100%.

When you commit I commit. That's my promise to you.

I'm here to listen, provide feedback, help you see the things you're not seeing, and guide you to your the answers that fit for you.

Once we have our initial discovery session, and if we determine it's a "Hell Yes," we will pick up the pace and get going. Here's what you can expect:


  • Weekly sessions via Zoom, 1 hour each, for 3 - 6 months


  • Initial "strategy session" to "find the gaps," and explore the possibilities


  • Weekly actionable tasks that drive you forward in a confident way


  • Access to my signature 6-step No Fears, No Excuses, No Apologies system for coming out


  • Me, available to you via email, text, or Voxer




What clients are saying...

Jeff H.

I felt like my life was on cruise control. Moving, but no real fulfilling direction. I was a little fearful about looking deep into my life to see why I was stuck, but the thought of continuing to be stuck was worse. Rick’s provided me with powerful insights and tools to rid myself of my victim mentality. I’m extremely excited that things are looking pretty damn good!

Jacob M.

Throughout the 18 months I have worked with Rick, I have developed a genuine, strong, overwhelming love for myself. I no longer have an inner fight going on. I am aware of my thoughts, my actions, my choices, and the energy I put into the world. Now I am a MAN, a GAY man, who can stand up and love himself regardless of who is in the room.

Randy B.

Rick is extremely supportive, full of love and helps you tackle and overcome obstacles in an honest and straightforward fashion. Sometimes we need someone on the outside to guide us through the process and keep us on track to reach our goals. I always feel comfortable talking with Rick, and can tell he is truly listening, cares about what I am saying and wants me to succeed

Brain G.

When I first contacted Rick to begin coaching sessions, I was going through the greatest crisis of my entire life… I had finally come to terms with the fact that I am gay. Rick was a tremendous support for me at that time, thoughtfully walking me through the process of understanding myself and eventually coming out to my family and friends.
Rick’s approach to coaching made all the difference. He never directed me to do anything. He never gave me a recipe for how to live my life. He simply asked questions that allowed me to make my own decisions and to chart my own path.
It’s been two years since I began work with Rick and I have to say, my life is completely transformed. My crisis is in the past and I have reached a place where I am profoundly happy. My relationships with my family and friends are wonderful. I am at peace with myself and I feel like I have a new direction in my life.
Whatever your issues: whether they be coming out, or transitioning to a new phase of life, I highly recommend Rick and his tremendous life coaching abilities.

Your Investment

Coaching Packages Range From

$800 - $1500 a month

Include weekly 30 - 60 minute sessions

Unlimited support between sessions


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