Guiding men to come out of the
closet to live their truth!

no excuses, no fears, no apologies

You're questioning your sexuality. You're confused.
You're scared! I get it. I've lived it.

I told my parents I was gay at age 19. They told me I was going to hell. That's when the hiding and lying started, and the pretending to be happy.

Secretly stealing glances at men. Grabbing any chance I could to watch gay porn. Clearing the cache on my computer. Trying not to get caught. Hooking up with guys in all the wrong places.

Cheating on myself, my girlfriends, and eventually my on wife - just to feel alive - enduring guilt and shame, hating myself constantly.

I did all the right stuff.

  • Graduated college.
  • Started my career.
  • Married a loving woman.
  • Became a father (no regrets there).

Did what made everyone happy - except for me.

I was constantly stressed, anxious, faking happiness, as an overweight, drinking to much life of the party guy, so that no one would discover the real me.

36 years of hiding, shame, guilt, fear, tearing me apart until I said, "Enough!"

Then, the right guy, at the right time, in the right situation, changed everything.

He was a mind-blowing hookup where there was no sex, I fell in love, and I fell apart.

48 hours later I confronted my truth, my wife, my life and came clean.

Within a year, I was an out, divorced, a proud gay dad, raising my two young daughters.

Within 3 years I had played the gay dating field, tripping, falling, swooning, and finally meeting my prince charming.

In the decade that followed I found the soul of me.

  • Discovered my path, my calling, my new career. Coaching other men in hiding, to guide them to lovingly come out closet.
  • Helping them dump the guilt and shame.
  • Inspiring them to come out with dignity and respect living life on their terms, their way.

I want you to do the same. Live your gay or bisexual life on your terms, your way.

Empowering you with the courage and confidence to be who you are.
The gay or bisexual man you've always been.


Stage 1:

You ask yourself, "How can I be gay" I like women. Maybe I'm Bisexual? What does it all even mean?


You're confused, thinking it's just a phase, and worst of all, you're
living in FEAR.


If you're ready to kill the confusion, get clarity and STOP living in fear, let's explore what's really going on.


Stage 2:

You know you're gay or bisexual.
Starting to accept your sexuality.
But, questioning "Should I come out?"


Maybe. Maybe not. Or, maybe not quite yet. Stop living in maybe's and get clear about what's best for you.


Whether you're ready or not, learn how to improve your quality of life in or out of the closet - without fear!


Stage 3:

Yep, you're gay or bisexual, and ready to come out.  You just want a killer plan to make this big step smooth.


You're ready to walk through the closet doors no excuses, fears, or apologies. Let's do it and do it right.


It's time to live your life to the fullest as a gay or bisexual man. Learn how to take your next best steps.

What clients are saying...

Jeff H.

I felt like my life was on cruise control. Moving, but no real fulfilling direction. I was a little fearful about looking deep into my life to see why I was stuck, but the thought of continuing to be stuck was worse. Rick’s provided me with powerful insights and tools to rid myself of my victim mentality. I’m extremely excited that things are looking pretty damn good!

Jacob M.

Throughout the 18 months I have worked with Rick, I have developed a genuine, strong, overwhelming love for myself. I no longer have an inner fight going on. I am aware of my thoughts, my actions, my choices, and the energy I put into the world. Now I am a MAN, a GAY man, who can stand up and love himself regardless of who is in the room.

Randy B.

Rick is extremely supportive, full of love and helps you tackle and overcome obstacles in an honest and straightforward fashion. Sometimes we need someone on the outside to guide us through the process and keep us on track to reach our goals. I always feel comfortable talking with Rick, and can tell he is truly listening, cares about what I am saying and wants me to succeed

Brain G.

When I first contacted Rick to begin coaching sessions, I was going through the greatest crisis of my entire life… I had finally come to terms with the fact that I am gay. Rick was a tremendous support for me at that time, thoughtfully walking me through the process of understanding myself and eventually coming out to my family and friends.
Rick’s approach to coaching made all the difference. He never directed me to do anything. He never gave me a recipe for how to live my life. He simply asked questions that allowed me to make my own decisions and to chart my own path.
It’s been two years since I began work with Rick and I have to say, my life is completely transformed. My crisis is in the past and I have reached a place where I am profoundly happy. My relationships with my family and friends are wonderful. I am at peace with myself and I feel like I have a new direction in my life.
Whatever your issues: whether they be coming out, or transitioning to a new phase of life, I highly recommend Rick and his tremendous life coaching abilities.

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