He looks normal, acts normal, and just wants to be loved like any other gay guy. But, he has a disability and as soon as he shares that with a guy he’s interested in dating, the pull a Houdini and disappear. Why? Because they feel he’s damaged goods. Today we explore the trials and tribulations...
There are many things that can get in the way of gay men finding their man. Not knowing where to look, settling for hook-ups, and confidence to name a few. But these two things are the most common reasons that gay men can’t find the right love with the right guy. But you’re going to...
It’s really easy to get bitchy with each other in our gay male community. Whether it is on the apps, in relationships, or when we are trying to come out. But what would happen if we worked on the big “E” and I’m not talking about erections. Instead, imagine using EMPATHY to better understand each...
Great sex. Fun Sex. Sex on your terms, your way. Why is that so hard for so many gay guys to achieve? Because of shame, shame, shame about sex and asking for what you want, not only in sex, but in life. We’re breaking the shame game today and inviting you to let your sexual...
Debt. Most Americans, and many, many, many gay men have it. Why? Because we want to live a fabulous life and then we end up fabulously in debt. No fun at all. I know. Been there done that a couple of times. So how do you manage all this and do it with fabulous gay...
I want more. I want to be better. I need something different in my life. Ok, cool. But do you get so obsessed about that as a gay man that you never get where you are going, or get what you are trying to achieve? Well then this podcast can guide get more, better, different...
Whether it is better sexual health – rock hard erections, stamina, or screwing like a porn star – most gay men want great sex but do they do what they need to do for better sexual health. The answer is “NO!” Here to guide towards better habits and practices, is Dr. Judson Brandeis, Top Urologist...
New Years is just two days away and while we could do, “Tips for making the most of your New Year,” instead let’s declutter our lives so we can have a great start for making the most of our new year. Here’s a no bullcrap way of getting the junk out of your life so...
Instead of getting caught up in your gay life that doesn’t please or serve you, go have a stroke. Actually don’t. I speak from experience in this podcast about how to stroke other things in life to bring you happiness, rather than dealing with a stroke. Just make sure what you are stroking pays off,...
Your partner has cancer, then recovers. Then you have cancer, and recover. Then your partner and pets both pass on. All of this while lovely COVID is reeking havoc on the planet. How do you thrive through this much turmoil? You trust the process and see the beauty in the challenges. Avid listener and beautiful...
If I make them happy, then I will be liked. Or even better, if I do this for them then they will do something nice for me. Sound familiar? It’s call being a pleaser and as gay men, we have tried to please everyone else, hiding our true self, and then when we come out,...
Authenticity is one of those words that can be cringe or cult worthy. For most gay men, it is something that we all struggle with as we battle the demon of “that’s not what you’re supposed to be.” Let’s end that battle and look at authenticity through the lens of how you define it, and...
Dating. It’s either fun or the bane of your existence. Whatever happened to the good old days of waving a magic wand and meeting Prince Charming. LMAO. Yeah, keep dreaming men. It’s time to do the work and make those relationships happen. What better way to celebrate the 200th episode of 40 Plus: Gay Men,...
Stop whining and start celebrating your milestones of life – age, career advancements, make-ups and breakups, losing weight, gaining weight. They are all milestones that give us the goods to move our lives forward if we use those milestones to kick ourselves in the ass for good instead of moping around like a whiny old...
Sex, sex, sex. That’s all gay men care about. Not exactly true but even if it is, sex and sexual pleasure can get the best and worst of us as we age…or does it? Intimacy expert, Susan Bratton joins me today for a very candid, raw, sexual chat about everything sexual and how to take...
Aging. Wondering what do I do and where will my life lead me? It’s happening to all of us. One of the biggest questions is “When the time comes, where do I find a community that is welcoming to me as an aging, retired gay man, without the fear of having to hide back in...
You have this burning desire to do your own thing, start your own business, be your own boss. Great. Awesome. Then the challenges arise and instead of walking away from a job, you just built yourself a job that you can’t get away from. Stefaan DeVreese candidly shares the in’s and out’s of being a...
Living life is messy. Messy, messy, messy. Now add to it being a gay man, and Lord help us, it can get real messy. Helping us undo some of that mess when we think it is impossible is Author Britt East, sharing wisdom from his book “A Gay Man’s Guide To Life.” Listen up and...
It’s too late to come out. It’s too late to find a relationship. It’s too late to find my passion. BULLSHIT! You can come out of the closet of your life, regardless of what that closet is, even when you think it is impossible. These five tips will help you see the thought – “too...
Seems non-monogamy is more and more common as gay men try to find themselves in their relationships in a way that works for them as individuals and as a couple, or even a thruple. So how do you make it all work when Monogamy isn’t the way. Polyamory expert Kitty Chambliss joins us today to...