You want a man, you feel like you need a man (even though you don’t) yet, are you making room for a man in your life? Once we hit our 40+ lives as gay men, we may not be making room for a man in our life, and that harsh truth is what we are...
What do you do when you just can’t find the way to make money doing your passion? You just keep doing it on the side until you find the way. Is it difficult? Challenging? Worth it? Yes, yes, and yes. Tom Brickman – known as The Frugal Gay – shares his insights on how to...
We all screw up. We all are too hard on ourselves and not in a good way. And, we all find it really hard to forgive ourselves. Well time to put that crap aside, and give yourself a spoonful of forgiveness and move on beyond whatever has got ya hung up. Here’s a few tips...
SHOULD, ought to be banned from the english language. Or at least from the gay man’s talk. Because when we should all over ourselves, we don’t have much fun. You should do this, you should do that, you don’t get much done if you are SHOULD-ing. Instead start doing. Here’s 10 Things Gay Guys Over...
You hit that point in your life where something has got to change. Get that promotion, find that next gig, be more intentional about your passion. Regardless of how you look at this as a gay guy over 40, you lead yourself, and you can lead others to have that impact in the world. Joining...
We’re all fools. Every one of us gay men. No one gets out of life without being a fool. Crappy dating habits. Pursuing wrong careers. Eating unhealthy foods. Not believing in ourselves. It’s all foolish. But that doesn’t mean you have to stay in that space! Instead, turn your fool into a gay jewel. And...
What motivates gay men? Do all gay men only want sex? What if an open relationship can work? Can I be spiritual or religious as a gay man? Questions, questions, questions. It seems we as gay men are constantly questioning ourselves. To help me answer some of these questions is Brian Madigan of Gay Guru...
Gaslighting. Blaming. Pulling wicked “not me, that’s you” bullshit on ourselves and from others. It’s called being a Narcissist. If you’ve ever lived with one you know what I mean. And, if you’ve ever been one to yourself, you know what I mean. But it’s time to slay that narcissistic dragon and move on to...
As RuPaul sez, “If you can’t love yourself, how the hell you going to love someone else?” But what many of us as gay men don’t realize is when we love ourselves, all is well, all is coming, all is delicious. Our guest today, Jerome Braggs, guides, teaches, and illuminates ways for us as gay...
As the queen of soul sez: R-E-S-P-E-C-T. It is time to respect yourself and if you don’t then that is on you, and only you. Because self-respect is where confidence grows. And as another queen sez (RuPaul) – If you can’t respect yourself, how the hell you going to respect someone else. Ok I took...
Like it or not, all of us gay men are aging. It’s a conveyor belt and there is nothing we can do about it. Nor should we feel pressure to do something about it. Yet, some gay men do choose cosmetic surgery and skin care regimes to make themselves feel comfortable in their aging bodies....
Roles, roles, roles. Everyone wants us to play some role so that it makes it easier to relate to them. We all do it, and don’t say you don’t. Yet, as gay men, we feel like we have to fit into some constrained role to make our gay lives work…or do we. We’re rolling out...
Valentine’s Day is just a few days away. So let’s start crying the blues about what sucks about being a gay man and no one to love. Nah. Let’s not do that. Let’s talk about the challenges of not having someone to love but what we can do to be more in love with our...
How do you as a gay man, conquer the confidence conundrum? we say the last part of that question 3 times really fast, and if you can say that, you’ve got confidence! Just kidding. But, gaining/finding confidence as a gay man, is about as close as grabbing your middle leg and stroking it to life....
The clothes are coming off. Your heart’s racing and an appendage is growing, and you can’t wait to touch him and have him touch you. Then your head – the one above your shoulders starts creating a story that – you’re no good, you’re no good, you’re no good – buddy you’re no good at...
The biggest question I get asked, by guys coming out of the closet, is not how do you take a big penis, it’s how do you do gay? Ok, maybe the penis question comes up to, but today we’re exploring how you do gay, whether you’ve been out since you were a teen or just...
OMG. My penis no longer works, and my prostate no longer feels pleasure. My life is over! That may be the way it seems, but does having and living with prostate cancer mean, your life is over as a gay man? No! Just ask today’s guest, Kenneth A. Johnson. He’s living his life to its...
It’s the beginning of the year, and what do you want to do with this year? I don’t know! What do you want from this year? I don’t know! What would make you feel fulfilled this year? I don’t know! Fine, then sit on your little victim, wandering in the desert of your lost life,...
Do not set a New Year’s Resolution. Do not head out to that party dreading the start of another year. Do not do anything that you do not plan to do without a solid INTENTION. That’s my advice for this coming year, and every year. And, here’s how you do a new year filled with...
You’re running yourself ragged, trying to get all the right gifts for everyone. But, what have you done for you? What gift are you going to give yourself? And don’t go saying, “That’s so selfish!” There’s nothing selfish about giving yourself a gift this holiday season, and here’s a few gifts you should consider. Hey...